I wanted to give you a quick and succinct listing of the best books on personal development and grow leadership, and living a healthy lifestyle.
WillPower Doesn’t Work – Ben Hardy
Ben Hardy, wrote an amazing book called, “Willpower Doesn’t Work.” I don’t know about you, but the title certainly got my attention!
The book covers a lot of scenarios from trying to lose weight, dealing with addictions, toxic relationships, as well as workplace situations.
Jeff’s Top 2 Takeaway’s:
- Clearly identify what you want to achieve (make a decision). If you don’t know what you want, how are you ever going to get it? Whether you want to lose weight, kick an addiction, get a promotion, or lead your team better – write it down, internalize it and focus on achieving it.
- Commit and create conditions in your environment to make it happen! The fact is “willpower” dissipates as the day progresses, so you need to acknowledge this fact and be prepared with a strategy to stay strong throughout the day. If you want to lose weight, get rid of all the junk food from your house. If you want to be a positive person, remove negative people from your life.
Ben is not only a great guy, but he’s also a great “personal growth” author, please check out his awesome articles on Medium.com .
The ONE Thing – Gary Keller
The ONE Thing by Gary Keller is a must-read for anyone interested in productivity and personal improvement. This book clearly defines why productivity is the perfect vehicle for getting what you want and living an extraordinary life.
You could summarize The One Thing in this sentence, “recognize that not all things matter equally and focus only on the things that matter most.”
It All Starts with the First Domino
You will love Gary’s analogy of dominoes. If you find the right “first domino” it will knock down all of the following dominoes. If your domino doesn’t connect to the others, everything just stops.
The key is to create momentum. You can create momentum by finding that first domino (or tactic) that will connect and knock down the other dominoes so you can achieve your goal. You start with your big picture goal (3-5 years out), then connect it to what you need to do in the next year, then the next quarter, and finally what you need to do today. He also suggests “time blocking” first thing in the morning, because your willpower deteriorates throughout the day and you should focus on nothing but that FIRST domino!
This book covers a lot of great content. For example, the fact that multi-tasking leads to less productivity, not everything matters equally (80/20 rule), the importance of asking the right questions, goal setting and how to live by priority, not urgency.
A friend gave me this book, and I thought with a title like that, the author must be making up for poor content, but I was mistaken. This book was a great read, and a great reminder to focus on only doing what is most important to you. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson is a guide on how to let go a little bit and enjoy life more.
Jeff’s Key Takeaway’s:
- The key to a good life is not giving a f*ck about more; it’s giving a f*ck about less, giving a f*ck about only what is true and immediate and important.
Not giving a f*ck does not mean being indifferent, it means being comfortable with being different.
- To not give a f*ck about adversity, you must first give a f*ck about something more important than adversity.
- And I think most importantly, whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a f*ck about.
In Shawn Achor’s book, The Happiness Advantage: How a Positive Brain Fuels Success in Work and Life, he describes how happiness represents an advantage in every major aspect of our lives. According to psychology studies, positive brains have a biological advantage over brains that are neutral or negative.
What I enjoyed about this book is the fact that Shawn provides a list of principles we need to follow in order to rewire our brains and turn happiness into an everlasting behavior.
- Principle #1: The Happiness Advantage – As if you didn’t think being happy was a worthwhile goal!
- Principle #2: The Fulcrum and the Lever – The fulcrum is actually our mindset and the lever is the power.
- Principle #3: The Tetris Effect – This allows us to identify patterns of options, so that we may take advantage of each opportunity we face.
- Principle #4: Falling up – The concept of falling up in order to describe the mental path that we need to find, so that we may be able to avoid failure and find the way towards happiness
- Principle #5: The Zorro Circle – There will be moments when we feel overwhelmed by different events and situations. Regaining control in our lives requires we make a Zorro Circle containing small goals which can build to larger ones. By narrowing your scope, you gain control.
- Principle #6: The 20-Second Rule – the rule is based on our natural gravitation to activities which are easy to get started on. Keep positive habits only 20 seconds away from you!
- Principle #7: Social Investment – “The most successful people invest in their friends, peers, and family members to propel themselves forward.”
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change explores a number of paradigms, principles and habits that can help you become more productive, whether that be as an individual, as part of an organization.
- Habit 1: Be Proactive
- Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
- Habit 3: Put First Things First
- Habit 4: Think Win-Win
- Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be understood
- Habit 6: Synergize
- Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw